What do YOU define as porn addiction? What does it take for a man to be an addict in your opinion?
It’s funny, 84% of men surveyed agreed that porn is addictive, yet most men that I see or talk to don’t believe they have “a problem” or “an addiction”. They see it as an alternative to cheating or as sexual inspiration, because men are visual right? Men are visual creatures yes, but this goes beyond being visual. A lot of men laugh at the thought of porn even being addictive, and see it as completely normal. And our society has supported that mentality, enabling the sex industry to be the largest in the world, thanks to the internet.
I spoke to a 28 year old online who confessed to me that he had never masturbated without the assistance of porn or having a woman watch him on camera. Not once in his life. And he didn’t see anything wrong with that. There were a number of really cool conversations getting to know this guy, but he then sent me a random message one day saying “come and sit on my face”. And that, that is where our society is at. That is where the dating scene is at. And that is why I am here doing this.
I define porn addiction with a very simple formula. If the amount of times that you are masturbating equals the amount of times you’re watching porn, then you have a porn addiction. That could be once a month. Once a week. Or every day. The formula is always the same. You don’t have to be watching it every day to have a porn addiction, you just have to be reliant on it to enjoy self-pleasure, have an orgasm, or get an erection. In other words, you are using it as a tool. And that is what most men are doing.
I have men telling me they can’t get erect without porn, that they can’t get horny without porn, that they can’t orgasm without porn. That masturbation “doesn’t work” without porn. Do you see what is happening?
The majority of you are watching it during work hours and watching it in the car. You are masturbating and reaching orgasm quickly and therefore not able to last long during sex. 70% of men are reaching orgasm quicker watching porn whilst masturbating (vs not watching it). What you do in masturbation will happen during sex…this is why a lot of men are experiencing premature ejaculation as a side effect of watching porn. And this is why all my clients get masturbation homework!
Almost 50% of you are feeling unsatisfied after masturbation or sex. Even when you’ve reached orgasm. That is because you are depleting your sexual energy each time you watch porn and there is no natural build-up of sexual energy in your body to release when you orgasm, therefore leaving you unsatisfied. Instead, you are running on empty and trying to fill a void. Your brain is trying to feed the addiction it has to the chemicals being produced each time you watch porn. Your penis doesn’t even respond sometimes unless you’re watching porn. This self-pleasure exercise has become totally non-sexual…just a chemical addiction in the body.
91% of men are watching porn and masturbating for reasons other than self-pleasure. 91%!! That’s where things are truly getting out of control. You’re masturbating because you’re bored, lonely, depressed, anxious, stressed, tense, tired, hungover, can’t sleep, can’t think straight, and before you go to gym. And it’s important to note here that 65% of men surveyed have some kind of mental health issues or illness. Porn addiction has a direct link to mental health, and men that suffer from depression, anxiety, ADHD and Autism tend to masturbate and watch more porn than the average man.
Don’t get me wrong, you can masturbate every single day, but not with porn (although that is not recommended as you lose your chi every time you ejaculate, but that's for another time). You need to start connecting to your imagination and body, and start learning to breathe properly and experience full-body orgasms. You can learn how to harness that sexual energy and have mind-blowing experiences…and THIS is what I help you learn, embrace, and practice.
So where do we go from here? I’m here to educate and provide a quick and easy solution for all men addicted to watching pornography, and to help them overcome so many other issues that arise due to the addiction. You can find me all over social media (links below) or on www.integratedmenshealth.com.au. Get in touch if you'd like more information or to discuss how I can help you.
Catherine Lyell
Integrated Men’s Health Solutions
Bonbeach, Vic, Australia
Phone: +61401 541 571 Email: integratedmenshealth@outlook.com
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