What if I told you I have only ever met six men that don’t watch porn?
Just think about that for a second.
How many men do you think I’ve met over the years? Thousands and thousands. Not only in my personal life, but on average three a day in my clinic! And, according to my recent survey, my prediction on the number of men that watch porn is correct - 97% of men watch porn. We are dealing with an epidemic of ridiculous proportions.
So, when were these men first exposed to porn? 80% of men were in their teens when they first viewed pornographic material, some as young as 10 years of age. For the older generations, that would have been via their dad’s magazine collection, or a library of VCR tapes, but for the younger guys, it’s all too accessible as we all know, and has been since “the smartphone”. Most men that I speak to have been watching it, at the very least, since the “world wide web” was invented in 1991. But for some it’s even longer. We’re looking at a very common 27-year porn addiction!
Now I’ve had plenty of men try and argue with me on this topic, which is always interesting to say the least. They try and convince me that I’m wrong; that porn is healthy; that this is just my opinion; that I’m a frigid woman who doesn’t like sex; that it’s better than cheating or that there’s nothing wrong with watching it day in and day out. But those men are just one man. You don’t see what I see. You don’t know what I know. You can only have an opinion on YOUR experience with porn, and even then, you probably don’t realise what it’s doing to you.
I've recently conducted a survey with hundreds of men and I’ll be referring to results of that survey throughout this publication. These men volunteered to fill out the survey containing 54 questions and were not hand-picked by me, they were found online and I am unaware of who filled it out as it was anonymous. The full results will be available to those who chose to work with me.
I’m not here to tell you how degrading it is to women, nor how unrealistic it is, or what it does to your relationships. I don’t even care what genre you’re watching, because it really doesn’t matter anymore.
I’m here to support you. To educate you. To facilitate healing in you. To save your sex life and your relationships. To get your penis to work again. We are looking at an epidemic which is ruining our men and destroying their relationships with women.
What if watching porn damages your body and mind on levels you can't even begin to understand? What if it changes the neural pathways and causes a chemical addiction? What if it then means you sit in a quick-fix mentality, an orgasm mentality, where there is no journey or connection to the moment? What if it drains your life force energy, your sexual energy, to the point that you are literally an empty vessel? What if it causes impotence, premature ejaculation, and means difficulty achieving orgasm? What if it creates a total disconnect from self and from women?
Well it does.
And I see it EVERY day. All the symptoms of porn addiction, which men can’t and won’t even understand or recognise that porn is the cause. I’ve had 19-22 year olds come in and see me who can’t hold their erections during sex, they can't orgasm with a woman, and they have to “finish themselves off”, all because they've been watching porn religiously since they were 12. I see 27 year olds that are on Viagra and have performance anxiety because they’re suffering from both premature ejaculation and impotence. I see 35 year olds that are almost completely impotent unless they’re watching porn.
I've also seen it in my personal life, I've seen it on dating sites, in conversations with friends, and I can pick up on it immediately when dating. I think most men would be horrified at the effect porn is having on men as a whole. And if you’re reading this, you’re about to find out!
Men who watch a lot of porn typically touch themselves a lot during sex, they are orgasm-centric, they are disconnected from their partner and are often thinking of other women. They go into auto pilot and try all the porn moves, they vacate emotionally and energetically during sex, they have issues with erections, and they have premature ejaculation or they can’t orgasm. They often send women inappropriate dick pics, they slap arses and pull hair, or they ask their partner for “adventurous” scenarios that normally involve external people or kinky requests… being a woman, I have seen all this and more.
So where do we go from here? I’m here to educate and provide a quick and easy solution for all men addicted to watching pornography, and to help them overcome so many other issues that arise due to the addiction. You can find me all over social media (links below) or on www.integratedmenshealth.com.au. Get in touch if you'd like more information or to discuss how I can help you.
Catherine Lyell
Integrated Men’s Health Solutions
Bonbeach, Vic 3196, Australia
Phone: +61401 541 571
Email: integratedmenshealth@outlook.com
Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/integratedmenshealthsolutions